I just got back from my last Yoga class. Yesterday, I met with a friend at 8 in the morning to go x-country skiing at the place where, for the past 6 Winters we had been skiing over lunch breaks – likely the last time before I leave.
Over the last few weeks I have been very conscious about all the “Lasts” I would be doing before I leave for my new job in Switzerland. This got me thinking, that it is far less abut the last time I may be pursuing a particular activity at a specific location, but more about the people I did them with. The memories created, the hazing endured or simply a good time shared when the sun light turns that honey golden color during a Fall bike ride.
So, what if all my “lasts” are not meant to be ” lasts”, but if they are meant to last as in ” to be built upon” with the same people. May be my friend Alex is right when he summed our new life in Switzerland up in:” Dude, you’re just a vacation away.” I hope that he is right, because right now, leaving my friends, colleagues and buddies behind hurts like hell.
One of the big downsides when one works in a global economy is the time when a persons transitions from one opportunity to the next. Economists simply call it opportunity cost. One needs to give something up to pursue something else. But on a personal level, there are emotions involved, it is so much more than just business. Unless you have worked in hell (Whatever that may be to you, but why did you do that for as long as you did?) it involves a bit of heartbreak.
I have seen many farewell letters from former co-workers in my inbox and I have read them all, even the ones from people I never met.
Some were reflective, some bitter, one had a song attached to it, but they all looked back over the period that was just about to end and they all had at least a shred of nostalgia in them.
When I wrote mine today, I too strolled down twelve years worth of Memory Lane.
It is unusual, because when you write a farewell letter, you force yourself to take stock in what you have achieved, opportunities you left – for one reason or another – on the table, people you have met, friends you have made, support you have received from different areas of your life and things you have learned. In a sense, you provide yourself with assurance that even though you move on, you still have people in your corner ready to support you, collective knowledge and experiences to draw upon in order to recreate the comfort you just gave up somewhere else.
So why give it up in the first place? Because in a global economy, opportunities for individuals are not just local anymore, they arise globally. In order to seize thee opportunities we must say our good byes much more definitively. The opportunities to work somewhere else but to still socialize with your friends decrease as the geographic area of professional opportunities increases – Opportunity Cost.